Saturday, April 02, 2011

Sometimes It Hurts Instead

They said in order to kill the pain, first you have to acknowledge the pain and make peace with it. So I am acknowledging it now by writing it down. Guess this is probably one of the most difficult entry I made for this blog. I could feel as if my heart is bleeding while I am typing this. Once in a while I'll put my hand on the chest, hoping the warmth of my hand would somehow provide the comfort I needed for myself. And I take a deep breath, trying to forget everything that was so sweet that it hurts even more now.

I wanted to forget the first day I met him.
I wanted to forget his shyness and sweet sweet smile.
I wanted to forget the warmth I felt when he was sitting next to me.
I wanted to forget the words that he had said to me.
I wanted to forget every other nights talking and laughing with him over the phone.
I wanted to forget the text messages and greetings he sent to me.
I wanted to forget every other things that he said and done...

But,
Only to find myself remembering them all over again.


No, we weren't lovers. We were two individuals searching for someone to love. And we thought there's a possibility between us. And so we tried. Somehow, things didn't work out. Love is gone, pain and sorrow seep in, at least that's what happened for me.

And so I started to hate.

I hate the fact that I didn't know how he really felt when we were trying to be together.
I hate the fact that I was given the cold shoulder instead of talking things out or be honest with me when he gave up on us.
I hate the fact that I was declined to meet face to face to have the one last talk.
I hate the fact that I was treated like a stranger every time we meet again though we said we will be friends.
I hate the fact that I have to see him again some time.
And so I hate...

Just when I barely recover from this heart-break, he has to bring another huge news: He found somebody new and everyone knows it!



No, I am not blaming him for finding someone new. He has every right to do so. But I hate the fact that he did not manage to keep it to himself (or themselves) but made such a big-entry and made everyone raises their eye-brows, which eventually put me into a very awkward situation. When everyone asking and teasing him about his new-found love, what am I suppose to do? How am I supposed to feel? How am I suppose to react?

Oh I smiled. Yes, I smiled. When everybody interrogating him about his new love, I smiled. And I turned to somewhere else trying to hide my pain. I could feel the heat all over my face and it was in red. I could also feel the barely-recovered-wound being cut open again. And It hurts every time my heart beats. Oh how my heart bleeds! The hurt and pain was so great that I almost felt suffocated. And yet, I tried to smile, laugh even. No tear. No cry. I fucking smiled. And then, I felt numb. I remember that day I was driving home after that, listening to Adele's album, wanting to cry, but there's no tears. That feeling was miserable!

Luckily, everybody there doesn't seem to know our past. Everybody thought we were just friends. Things would have been worse if everyone knew we were trying to be together.

Love has once again break my heart.
Love has once again bring me disappointment and despair.
Love has once again throw me into the deep darken valley of sorrow.
Love has once again bring me down...

Having nobody to talk to nor find comforts in... that sucks! I am so amazed by how cold and harsh the world can be that it always have a way to break you and make you fall.


And so I allowed myself to dwell in the hurt and pain for the past few days. Remembering or thinking about all the "glory days" and "could have" and "what ifs". Before I fall into deep depression, I guess now it's time to take a step back, take a deep breath and stand up again. Consider this a lesson learnt.

I've learnt that I should keep an open mind for any relationship.
I've learnt that it's better to start from being friends first, instead of rushing into anything further.
I've learnt that sometime feelings need to be expressed and conveyed clearly.
I've learnt that sometime heart-to-heart, face-to-face talk is crucial.
I've learnt that I cannot be too submissive.
I've learnt that I must know myself better, in order to be better and better.

For that, I am thankful for the lesson and the experience. Though it still hurts, I strongly believe time will ease the pain. No, I don't hate him anymore. He's just another soul looking for love like I do. Like one of my friend said:"In any relationship, someone will get hurt.". Guess I am the unlucky one then.

Casting away all the fears and pain, letting go all the sadness and sorrow, I am gonna get over it and move on. Believing that tomorrow is a brighter and better day. I shall be strong. Please, keep me strong.

The following song is the song I keep listening and singing for the past few days. This song somehow manages to describe how I feel at this moment of my life. Beautiful song, really.


I heard that you're settled down,
That you found a girl and you're married now,
I heard that your dreams came true,
Guess she gave you things I didn't give to you,
Old friend, why are you so shy?
Ain't like you to hold back or hide from the light,

I hate to turn up out of the blue uninvited,
But I couldn't stay away, I couldn't fight it,
I had hoped you'd see my face,
And that you'd be reminded that for me it isn't over,

Nevermind, I'll find someone like you,
I wish nothing but the best for you, too,
Don't forget me, I beg,
I remember you said,
"Sometimes it lasts in love,
But sometimes it hurts instead,"
Sometimes it lasts in love,
But sometimes it hurts instead, yeah,

You know how the time flies,
Only yesterday was the time of our lives,
We were born and raised in a summer haze,
Bound by the surprise of our glory days,

I hate to turn up out of the blue uninvited,
But I couldn't stay away, I couldn't fight it,
I had hoped you'd see my face,
And that you'd be reminded that for me it isn't over,

Nevermind, I'll find someone like you,
I wish nothing but the best for you, too,
Don't forget me, I beg,
I remember you said,
"Sometimes it lasts in love,
But sometimes it hurts instead,"

Nothing compares,
No worries or cares,
Regrets and mistakes, they're memories made,
Who would have known how bittersweet this would taste?

Nevermind, I'll find someone like you,
I wish nothing but the best for you,
Don't forget me, I beg,
I remember you said,
"Sometimes it lasts in love,
But sometimes it hurts instead,"

Nevermind, I'll find someone like you,
I wish nothing but the best for you, too,
Don't forget me, I beg,
I remember you said,
"Sometimes it lasts in love,
But sometimes it hurts instead,"
Sometimes it lasts in love,
But sometimes it hurts instead.

16 comments:

Phunk Factor said...

I think there was a big mistake that u made over here...since u both could not find anybody..u two made a huge compromise by trying to be together wen from the beginning that was clearly not ur or his intention...u may have given it ur best shot...bt i don't think he did!

Hope u feel all better soon...really REALLY soon!

tuls said...

*hugs*

ooi2009 said...

i am having nasi lemak for breakfast today

savante said...

YOu start by thinking what a big jerk he is for leading you on quite obviously knowing that you like him - while he's busy with someone else.

thompsonboy said...

I remembered feeling like crying but no tears seems to flow and I esp hate it when people try to be nice and say things like oh you are too good for him anyway etc. It's sweet for them but how does that help me feel better?

carpe diem said...

I don't think you lost. Consider it your gain. He should have been honest and upright enough to say it on your face. Are you not surprised that he found his prince so fast? Nothing to bleed over.

Thanks for your sharing.

Janvier said...

Actually I think you're being too hard on yourself, and if you say you're feeling the lowest of the low you will feel far more miserable then if you focus on other things.

It didn't work, so give yourself time to recover, then try and perk up ya. Oh and go put salt in his drink when he isn't looking.

Jaded Jeremy said...

Hope you're feeling better now.

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